Signs He Doesn't Care About the Relationship
- By: Jane
The fundamental principles that support a relationship are love, open communication, and trust. Lovebirds get to talk to each other about their daily activities and spend much time together. However, at some point in relationships, the man starts to distant himself and acts differently. It would help if you were worried when this happens.
You need to first communicate with him before jumping to conclusions. If communication becomes a problem, you might want to focus on his behaviors. What are some of the other signs that will alert you that he does not care? We will help you with that.
Below are several signs that your man does not care about the relationship.
1. You are the second option.
You will notice your partner has lost interest in you when he fails to prioritize you in his daily activities. Does he consider you in his plans? If no, then this is not a good sign. Any relationship, even friendship, is not worthwhile when your name comes last.
Is he trying to avoid you at all costs? Miss, you need to smarten up and take appropriate actions. Either talk to him about it or leave immediately. It might be a rough patch, but it is better to leave than to remain somewhere that you are treated as the "other girl."
2. He is only into sex.
How is your intimate life? Do you have genuine affection during sex or booty calls? Do you know that the two have apparent differences? A booty call can be a connection with no love association, while an intimate relationship is generally a connection between individuals who have pure love intentions.
Remember, men can have sex with no love feelings. It would be crucial to look for a relationship that values quality time and connection. If he is not happy during your hang time, then he is not the guy for you.
Men with true feelings consistently rank sex as a secondary activity when they meet someone they are significantly interested in. They try to establish a solid friendship with the “best friend” before even having an intimate affection.
If your man does not want to listen to you, and only wants sex, then he undoubtedly does not care about you at all.
3. He cuts you off from his circle.
Has he introduced you to his friends or family? No? Then he is hiding you from his circle. A caring partner will confidently and passionately introduce you as his partner.
If no one in his inner circle is talking about you, then you should be concerned, girl. He is hiding something and treats you as a secret lover.
4. You make the moves first.
If you are the one always initiating conversations or hangouts, then he does not feel you. Or, let us not jump to conclusions this first. He might be shy to ask you out. You might consider being patient.
You can give him few days and wait for him to initiate anything. Be keen on his excitement level and draw out strategic plans. If he still does not care or want to spend time together, that should ring bells in your mind that he has lost interest.
5. He is not intuitive about your day.
After a long day or week, you might need someone to share your daily activities. A guy with genuine interest will always want to know how your day went. He will reach you via your favorite social media channel and be intuitive about your daily activities.
If your guy is not acting this way, his love for you might have faded away. A genuine partner will want to know more about you. A lover who does not care will not see the worth of wanting to know you better.
6. He offers the same treatment as others.
A genuine lover will give you unique treatments. The spoils generally reflect the type of connection that exists. If he does not treat you differently from others, something is undoubtedly wrong.
A real lover will protect you significantly from any criticism or any other hostile actions.
For instance, a genuine one might surprise you with valued presents and gifts on special occasions like your birthday. The gifts do not have to be luxurious. If there are no unique treatments on your end, I am afraid to say that you are not entirely essential to the guy.
7. No future talks.
Future talks in relationships are the ultimate signs of an existing genuine love. You all speak about your plans and possible ways on how to make things possible in life.
If your lover cuts you off from such topics, it means that you are not in his plans. He views the association as a short-term relationship.
Some true lovers out there are changing careers and lifestyles to stay closer with someone they genuinely cherish. If all these future conversations do not occur on your side, he does not care about the relationship. He might be treating you as a stepping stone.
8. His sexual desires faded away.
When he is not giving his best in bed, this is a significant concern that needs follow-up. Faded sexual desires are a reflection of non-existent feelings and affection.
I know libido levels vary depending on your life events and situations. Let us assume that he is facing some life hurdles that have also affected his performance in bed. But, you might be wrong. He might not find meaning in the sex.
A man that cares will always try his best to satisfy his woman’s pleasures. You might need to get out of the meaningless relationship if your man cannot quench your sexual desires.
9. He makes all decisions.
During the new days of the relationship, decisions were based on mutual discussions and agreements. If your lover is not highlighting some of his ongoing projects right now, he might have lost interest in you.
Perhaps he has too much stress at work, which makes him distant himself. You can give him a suitable time to settle down his issues. If it takes place consistently, this is a clear sign that he does not want you to make decisions. He has lost the connection and teamwork that need to exist in every healthy relationship.
10. He dallies with other women in your presence.
A man with pure love will always direct his attention to his woman, or let us call it, the love of his life. He will lead you and hold your hand even in public. These actions showcase that he cares about you.
However, if your guy tends to flirt with other women in public while you are around, it clearly shows that he does not care anymore. He does not value you or know your worth.
11. He gives lame excuses.
When your relationship began, your lover used to create time to hang out with you. He will always be there for you in every aspect of your life, either happy or sad times. If he is acting differently right now, then he has no love intentions towards you.
He will consistently come up with lame excuses for not showing up. He even gets irritated when asked about it. These mixed signals happen in toxic relationships. He might want to move out from the love you established together but does not know how to do it.
12. No communication.
Poor communication is arguably one of the significant signs that your man does not care about you anymore. A solid relationship is backed by open communication between the partners. If your guy does not communicate, then the relationship is shattering into pieces.
By no communication, it means your guy is ignoring you. He is not conversing like how he used to it when flirting around. It might happen for a while. But if it persists for a long while, then he undoubtedly does not care about you.
13. Unapologetic for wrongdoings.
We all make mistakes since we are all imperfect human beings. However, if your man wrongs you and fails to apologize, he might not value the existing love bond. A true partner will ask for forgiveness when he makes unpleasing actions, like infidelity or violence.
When your man does not see the point of apologizing for the wrongdoings, he might not treasure you as his other half.
14. He is not concerned about your needs.
A relationship is an association between two individuals. When it comes to needs, true partners will consider the needs of each of the partners. You need to be worried when your man prioritizes his needs alone. He might ignore your feelings, yet, he is the one you need the most.
He is micro-managing you around and expects you to do all things that he desires. He might not be supportive at all of your needs. It means he no longer values, which signifies that he no longer cares about the relationship.
Relationships have highs and lows. It is natural for the sweet love that earlier existed to turn to hatred and distancing.
It might be tough for you to realize when your partner no longer has an interest in you. The article has pointed out some of the red flags that might help you realize when you guy no longer cares about you.
Do not jump to conclusions when some of the signs take place. They require consistency for you to take appropriate actions. Wait and weigh them before making any decision.